Each week I will be sharing a passage from my book 'The iFactor'

iFactor No.2

The Question: Do I do the same things over and over again and expect different results?

The Quote “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”  Victor Frank

The Passage: I have heard it said that a definition of madness is, “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”  I wonder how many of us under this definition, could be classed as mad?

Too many people do the same things and have the same thoughts, but expect different things to happen to them.

When nothing does, they ask, “Why me?”  Instead they should be asking, “What is it about me?”

If we want change, we have to change; if we want something different to happen in our lives, we have to do something different in our lives.   

Simply put, if we want different outcomes from our lives we must have different inputs in our lives.

In order to become someone you have never been, you need to do something you have never done.

Commit today to changing the rules of engagement, where you dare to be different and dare to be unique.  Be afraid of being the same.

Make a real commitment today, that turns your words into actions and your thoughts and ideas into tangible steps that bring you closer to your dreams and goals... Now that’s iThinking.

The iFactor is the only series of books in the world that have a journal and action planner all in one.  The iFactor is an inspirational book that move you to positive change.

“We fall down but we get up.” Donnie McClurkin

If you ever fall and need to be picked up, I'd like  to invite you to think about this truly heartwarming story of victory in the face of life's challenges. Have some tissues to hand... you will need them. http://tinyurl.com/34g95tr

The passage below is an excerpt from my iFactor book which I think reinforces one of the morals of Ben's story in the video.

Music has been used as a source of strength and inspiration since the dawn of time.   Medicine even uses it to heal.  The lyrics of a song can soothe an aching heart, uplift a down trodden spirit and re-ignite a broken dream.

I was moved one Sunday in church by the powerful lyrics from a song, “We fall down but we get up, we fall down but we get up.”  These words resonated with me and I reflected as the choir passionately delivered these simple yet profound success principles.

In life we all fall down at times, we first experience this as toddlers when we attempt to take our first steps in life.  Our initial failed attempt to walk is met with smiles and nothing more than possibly a slightly bruised bum.  We do not give up, we keep trying because even at that early age we realise that falling down is a process on our way to standing up.

Unfortunately this perception of us falling down changes as we mature into adulthood.  It is no longer our bums that are bruised when we fall down, but our egos.  We see falling down as something to be embarrassed about, something to be scorned on.

We hide our falls for fear of being seen as less than we are and beat ourselves up over the errors of judgement that led to them.

Here is the reality of life, we all fall down at times, it does not matter who you are.  We all have times when aspects of our life are in disarray.  This is true of the great leaders in the world and the everyday person.  It is nothing to be ashamed of, there is nothing wrong, it is a normal part of life.

The only time that ‘falling down’ in your life will cause you a real problem is when you ‘stay down’ and you make it even worse by ‘getting down’.

When you get down, you look up at the world instead of looking in the world.  Thus, you cannot see your place in the world and even if you do, you may not feel you are worthy or confident enough to claim it.

You may fall down at times in your life, however do not ‘stay down’ or ‘get down’.  Get back up again and wipe yourself off, brush off any self-pity and view the experience as character building, making you an ever stronger and wiser person on your journey through life.

Written by: Ken Barnes
Passage from The iFactor

“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” Sven Goran Eriksson

Whether you realise it or not, fear has shaped your likes and dislikes, chosen your friends, influenced your work and even raised your children. Your fears can keep you from accepting yourself and realising your full potential.

All of us have fears.  Fear of rejection, fear of looking stupid, fear of not being good enough, fear of the past and fear of the future.    It is your fears that stop you from doing many of the things you want to do in your life.

Fear can be like a straight jacket that immobilises and stagnates your growth and development.  To control and even overcome fear, you must first know what you fear and try to understand why you fear it.  By accepting fear and keeping company with it, you will eventually learn how to conquer it.

Conquering fear does not mean destroying it.  When you conquer something, you take control of it and become its master.  No one can ever completely destroy fear and why should you? It is an integral part of your protection system whether you like it or not. 

Shift your thinking from being afraid of making mistakes, to being afraid of not making a mistake.  If you are not making any mistakes you can be sure that you are not learning or growing.

Author - Ken Barnes

It’s iFactor request time!  Would you like an iFactor written especially for you? Do have something on you mind? Are you dealing with an issue that you would like a perspective on? Or would you just like some iFactor thoughts on a particular area?  Just send me an email ken@kenbarnes.co.uk

I will choose one of the requests I get and write an iFactor passage especially on that topic. 

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